The etiquette of crossing out your name on personalised stationery

The etiquette of crossing out your name on personalised stationery

I was helping a friend design some personalised stationery the other week when she asked me for examples of personalised stationery designs used by ‘real’ people, rather than what stationers had on offer / recommended.

Thankfully, Details’ (Magazine) were gracious enough to upload the letters of congratulations they received on their 10th Anniversary, so finding such stationery examples was easier than I initially thought.

That said, my friend raised the question as to why some of the letters had the writers name crossed out and others didn’t? And further, if this was customary – why then bother to have personalised stationery at all?

All very good points, however, after explaining the custom, she thought it was a bit lovely ….. and thankfully was even more keen to get her personalised stationery !

The explanation …… I have always been advised that the crossing out (or not) of one’s name on personalised stationery is a mark of the relationship between the writer and the recipient. The closer the relationship, the more likely the name is to be crossed out, so that the communication is more intimate and less formal. Which, when you think of it, is quite sweet really.

Is that what you have been advised too?